Rude = Inadvertently saying or doing something that hurts someone else.
Mean = Purposefully saying or doing something to hurt someone once (or maybe twice). *Has to do with intention*
Bullying = Intentionally aggressive behavior, repeated over time, that involves an imbalance of power. *Intent to harm, a power imbalance, and repeated acts or threats of aggressive behavior.*
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CONFLICT |
RUDE |
MEAN |
BULLYING |
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Occasional |
Occasional |
Once or twice |
Is REPEATED |
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Not planned; in the heat of the moment |
Spontaneous, unintentional |
Intentional |
Is planned and done on purpose |
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All parties are upset |
Can cause hurt feelings, upset |
Can hurt others deeply |
The target of the bullying is upset |
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All parties want to work things out |
Based in thoughtlessness, poor manners or narcissism |
Based in anger; impulsive cruelty |
The bully is trying to gain control over the target |
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All parties will accept responsibility |
Rude person accepts responsibility |
Behavior often regretted |
The bully blames the target |
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An effort is made by all parties to solve the problem |
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The target want to stop the bully’s behavior, the bully does not |
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Can be resolved through mediation |
Social skill building could be of benefit |
Needs to be addressed/should NOT be ignored |
CANNOT be resolved through mediation.
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Source: Jennifer Astles, DASA Newsletter, January 2014, TST BOCES
What if your child is the one doing the bullying?
Babble is partnering with Pacer Center to help parents understand and navigate the needs of children with mental health and behavior issues. October is National Bullying Prevention Month, which was initiated by PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center in 2006. To help spread awareness about bullying prevention, we’re talking about what to do if your child is the one doing the bullying.
What’s in your Club’s toolkit?
National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
www.stopbullying.gov : Bullying Prevention
www.childwelfare.gov: Protecting Children, Strengthening Families
www.childhelp.org : Prevention and Treatment of Child Abuse
http://safesport.org : Stop Abuse in Sport
www.stopitnow.org : Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse
www.pacer.org : Champions for Children with Disabilities
Join the movement! The End of Bullying Begins with Me: that’s the message during PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Month in October. It’s a time when communities can unite nationwide to raise awareness of bullying prevention through events, activities, outreach, and education. Resources from PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center make it easy to take action.
PACER created the campaign in 2006 with a one-week event which has now evolved into a month-long effort that encourages everyone to take an active role in the bullying prevention movement. PACER offers a variety of resources to use during October — and throughout the year — to inspire, educate and involve others to join the movement and prevent bullying where you live. Check out all of the different events and activities and make plans to get involved. Remember, the End of Bullying Begins With You!
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*PACER: Parent Advocacy Coalition for Educational Rights
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