Bullying … It seems we hear this term used so often that there might be a tendency to either gloss over educational information pertaining to it as we feel we know enough or to disregard allegations of or comments about bullying as we don’t believe it to be ‘actual’ bullying.
True, some allegations of bullying don’t rise to the level of bullying as defined in our SafeSport Policy. Instead it can be categorized as “rude,” “mean” or “hurtful” behavior and not “an intentional, persistent and repeated pattern of committing, or willfully tolerating by another person, physical and non-physical behaviors that are intended to have the reasonable potential to cause fear, humiliation or physical harm …”
But, should we be any less concerned or bothered?
It might be helpful to think of these behaviors along a spectrum with bullying or, worse, on one end and meanness and hurtfulness further down the spectrum. No matter where on the spectrum the behavior lies, none of these are behaviors we want to see from athletes in our fencing clubs or our own children.
By viewing it along a spectrum rather than as a label, it prompts us to be less concerned about whether it is actual bullying and more concerned about how to address it or how to proactively create an environment that doesn’t support behaviors along this “bullying spectrum.”
Recently, the U.S. Center for Safe Sport hosted a webinar to provide guidance and education as it relates to bullying. Offered to NGBs and their members, you can watch the webinar here.
One of the most relevant points, especially as it relates to creating an environment to deter these behaviors, is that as adults, we often adopt a reactive role — that is, responding to mean or bullying behaviors. But, it is important to recognize that as coaches and individuals in the club environment, you can have a proactive role through the culture/environment established. To help prevent bullying or other “mean” behaviors, it is suggested in the webinar to be C.A.L.M. (be sure to listen to the webinar for more detail). Let’s look at how you can do this:
By being CALM – Connect, Acknowledge, Listen, Model – you will be taking steps to create a club environment that can deter hurtful, mean or bullying behaviors.
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